What do you do when you feel like you're being ignored? I discussed this recently with a friend, and I'm sharing his (and my own) journey with being ignored. I'll teach you the coaching skills necessary for taking the feeling of being ignored as an opportunity to advance your leadership skills, and just why people seem to ignore us so easily.

I'm changing up the format for today's blog talk to a life coaching pep talk, a love letter for leaders, because I want you to know that you are deeply and completely, 100% worthy of love, joy, happiness, and peace in this moment, right here, right where you are, exactly as you are.

Today, I wanted to share a process that I do as a life coach(and a frequent "new kid") that may be useful to you on any given day, but especially if you're finding yourself at a new chapter in your career or in your life. This process can help you create the intentional outcome that you want, with whatever work you find yourself beginning.

In the follow-up to “Love Feels Hard”, I share some of my own responses to the coaching thought work questions I asked you, and what those responses could mean for your next step to live in love.

Follow along with me as I share with you my process of learning to live in love as I work through why I feel like I am recognizing myself less, why love feels hard, and some questions I asked myself to reflect on my next steps.

With the upcoming quarter, you might find yourself struggling with where to start on planning for the rest of the year- whether you’re planning with yourself, your team, or your leadership, today we’re looking at some questions to ask yourself when setting your intentions in a new quarter, a new year, even a new decade.

Are you also super productive when you're avoiding things? Today, I’ll share with you the inspiration that came to me, and share with you a thought that has been important for me during a week of transition and professional development about creating the grace and space to feel the emotions I felt, and when you may be ready to shift those emotions into something else.

What is forgiveness? How will you know you’re ready to forgive, where do you start with forgiving, and why do the people bothering you act the way they do to get under your skin, anyway? Does forgiveness have a timeline? We’ll answer these questions and more in today’s blog post, and learn the next steps for when(and if) you are ready to start forgiveness thought work.

Today, we’re talking about about how to shift out of belief with thoughts that seem like they're true, and that feel really hard to let go of. Learn how neural entrenchment teaches us everything we know, and how coaching work can help you let go of the thoughts that are no longer serving you. Relearning these thoughts is possible, and today’s questions will help you decide if and when you are ready to start the process.

Have you been dealing with regret from past decisions? So often, we beat ourselves up. We take immense responsibility, and create so much shame and blame for our past selves and our decision making in those moments. We’ll be taking a look into why our past selves made those decisions, why it’s not necessarily a reason to feel guilt or shame, and different ways to view those thoughts when they come up.

Have you heard yourself or someone else use the phrase, “I just wish…?” In today’s blog post, my background in coaching and neurolinguistic programming come together to analyze a time I found myself saying, “just,” what the phrase means, and how quickly we can use thought work to discover what we want hidden behind it.

When it comes to working with a$$holes, there are different dynamics to consider depending on how you are matrixed to or hierarchically aligned to them - the approach to use to respond to a boss vs. someone you manage vs. a colleague are very different.

In this three-part series, you’ll learn how to manage the assholes you work with, those you work for, and those you lead.

How do you want to show up? In your day today and in your life?

How you want to feel is available to you.

Start by imagining what it is that you want to feel. Live in that imagination.

Success is not about having to wear all the hats - It is about focusing.
Focusing with the time that you have on the things that you want to get done.
That’s it. It’s super simple.

The reaction cycle can be thrilling and addictive but what is it that’s going on in those in between moments? In the absence of reaction, whether you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop or just hanging out, what is it that you really want?

Stress is an invaluable, critical function of our brains and biology that literally helps us survive.

Like all emotions, stress is showing us something. Either it’s a true survival cue or it’s an opportunity for us to dial into those good intentional, mindful thoughts that will help us take control of the automatic stress cycle that can “hotwire” our behavior.

Either way, the experience of stress is a tool and there’s no guilt for feeling it. #zerostressguilt

You create your path.

But make sure you like your reasons for whatever you choose.

If your evolution of ambition has you questioning if you should stay the course or what it will mean if you don’t and you’re making choices because you feel obligated, guilty, or regret - you do not like your reasons.

It can be hella scary to create your own path, to diverge from the predicted, planned, orchestrated plan. But if you’re doing it for reasons you like - that is fulfillment.

People pleasing means you need the praise, the thanks, the gold star, the grade in order to feel good enough and believe that you matter. You are waiting on someone else to award you with proof of your significance and your value.

But people pleasing is a shell game.

You can only ever know your own thoughts and experience your own feelings. You are the ONLY one who decides if you’re doing a good job, serving well, making an impact.

If you're making little things mean a lot, you're not paying attention to the big things and making the little things mean a lot is why you feel deflated, defeated, tired, and alone.

Keep the big deals the big deals.

When you see the big thing that you really want, the little things become less consuming and then you can do the healing, the forgiving, the reframing, the intention setting, the visioning, the strategizing, and the planning.

And THAT is the place you want to live from because that is the driving mindset that makes peace, joy, sufficiency, love, enoughness, and abundance possible.