When it comes to working with a$$holes, there are different dynamics to consider depending on how you are matrixed to or hierarchically aligned to them - the approach to use to respond to a boss vs. someone you manage vs. a colleague are very different.

In this three-part series, you’ll learn how to manage the assholes you work with, those you work for, and those you lead.

How do you want to show up? In your day today and in your life?

How you want to feel is available to you.

Start by imagining what it is that you want to feel. Live in that imagination.

Success is not about having to wear all the hats - It is about focusing.
Focusing with the time that you have on the things that you want to get done.
That’s it. It’s super simple.

The reaction cycle can be thrilling and addictive but what is it that’s going on in those in between moments? In the absence of reaction, whether you’re waiting for the other shoe to drop or just hanging out, what is it that you really want?

Stress is an invaluable, critical function of our brains and biology that literally helps us survive.

Like all emotions, stress is showing us something. Either it’s a true survival cue or it’s an opportunity for us to dial into those good intentional, mindful thoughts that will help us take control of the automatic stress cycle that can “hotwire” our behavior.

Either way, the experience of stress is a tool and there’s no guilt for feeling it. #zerostressguilt

You create your path.

But make sure you like your reasons for whatever you choose.

If your evolution of ambition has you questioning if you should stay the course or what it will mean if you don’t and you’re making choices because you feel obligated, guilty, or regret - you do not like your reasons.

It can be hella scary to create your own path, to diverge from the predicted, planned, orchestrated plan. But if you’re doing it for reasons you like - that is fulfillment.

People pleasing means you need the praise, the thanks, the gold star, the grade in order to feel good enough and believe that you matter. You are waiting on someone else to award you with proof of your significance and your value.

But people pleasing is a shell game.

You can only ever know your own thoughts and experience your own feelings. You are the ONLY one who decides if you’re doing a good job, serving well, making an impact.

If you're making little things mean a lot, you're not paying attention to the big things and making the little things mean a lot is why you feel deflated, defeated, tired, and alone.

Keep the big deals the big deals.

When you see the big thing that you really want, the little things become less consuming and then you can do the healing, the forgiving, the reframing, the intention setting, the visioning, the strategizing, and the planning.

And THAT is the place you want to live from because that is the driving mindset that makes peace, joy, sufficiency, love, enoughness, and abundance possible.

To stop Imposter Syndrome in its tracks, first quiet the reactionary spiral of self-doubt, practice your own internal curiosity, and be an advocate of kindness to yourself.

Your IDENTITY is made of the thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself. Your identity drives your CONFIDENCE in EVERYTHING you do.

Want different results in your life? Look at what you believe about you.

We stay in ruts because they’re easy and they keep us safe and comfortable. But when the best of the best constantly make mistakes and have setbacks, how are they able to keep going and not get stuck in a failure rut?

How do you continue on the path of pursuing a goal or a plan when it’s hard, when you’ve failed and feel discouraged or embarrassed?

Here’s how they stay out of a fail-focused tailspin and the principles to use to break out of a rut.

The Celebration Challenge: Doing what's needed on purpose for a purpose you love is the definition of fulfillment. Celebrate those actions by sharing them - it's a contagious way to inspire others. Tag @tarahkeechcoaching and two other friends who you challenge to share their celebration.

Your ability to make decisions directly correlates with your ability to achieve your desired results. It's part of the human psychological learning process. Making better, clearer, faster decisions creates better, clearer, faster results.

Fear is wiring. Wanting with intention is wisdom. To level up your work, your relationships, any area of your life, you gotta know how to allow fear and take action anyway. This is intentional discomfort: feeling and thinking on purpose for a purpose, and this is how you get results that you want.

Being with people who are in pain can be hard. Why? Because of what we make their pain mean about us, and that is the pain we'd rather avoid.

When you hold space for those in pain you know how to survive your feelings - even pain. This is the authenticity that creates real confidence, deep relationships, and impactful service.

To authentically connect with others who are in pain: Be human. Allow your humanness. Allow others' humanness. Hold space for them. Hold space for their human pain.

Is there a right way to be wrong? When you're wrong, mistaken, or accused of being wrong, you've got an unsolicited opportunity to grow into your relationship, your brand, your reputation - all of which will help you level up in the long run.

When you make a mistake, you can make it a springboard for positive growth to develop your leadership strength, skills, and stamina.