A Little Pep Talk
Well hello there. I'm going to take a shift out of some of the normal diary entries that I've been sharing with you and give you a love note. This is one of the reflections that I do with the people in my life who matter the most (as well as my clients in my executive coaching program). I want to offer it to you here, as a way that you can choose to understand who you are and how you are in this world, in this life, and in this moment.
I want you to know that you are deeply and completely, 100% worthy of love, joy, happiness, and peace in this moment, right here, right where you are, exactly as you are. There are no qualifications for you. There are no mandates. There are no contingencies. You are exactly who you're meant to be, exactly how you're meant to be, and you are right on time. Now some of that may have been hard to hear, and I want you to know that that's okay. Some of that may have felt pretty obvious, and I want you to know that that's okay, too. But in those moments where it doesn't feel real, when it feels like a stretch, or full of disbelief, it doesn't make it less true. That is the truth, and it is for you. That's the magic of our thinking. Our thoughts can so easily distract us (hello, burnout negativity) and take us away from things that are truth. And just like that, we can help refocus our thoughts on what is true.
It's in that sort of messy middle between not believing and believing, where you've got a foot on each side of the shore, that it takes the most effort. However, it's absolutely worth it, because when you're on the other side of the shore, when you're a hundred percent aware, in belief, and living in that truth, that's when you're most productive(goodbye, burnout!). That's when you perform at your best, feel your best, and have the most fun. It’s important to remember that the other side is valuable too. We're not disregarding that other, ugly side. All that pain is showing you(this is also what we teach in my leadership coaching program) is that those ugly thoughts that you don't want to write down, that you don't want to say out loud, that you don't even want to let yourself think, are gifts too. They're just showing you where you're ready to grow. They're showing you hurts that you're ready to let go of. They're showing you pain points that it's time to solve, or they're showing you stories that it's time to let go of. Paying attention to the pain is how you know exactly what change that is.
If you want help to look at what that change is, here's what I recommend you do. I recommend you get a voice memo, a Google doc, or a pen and paper and you put it out into the world. You get it out of the back corners of your mind and you look at it. It helps you see. It's always helped me. Something about it gives objectivity to those thoughts, it makes it easier to say, “Oh, ouch. That's it. That's the point. That's the piece that really hurts.”
What is it that's really hurting you? What is it that is keeping you between standing in the belief that you are exactly who you're meant to be, exactly as you are, fully equipped, wholly lovable, wholly worthy? The thoughts that stand in between that belief for you, are the thoughts that are showing you where you're ready to grow. It takes courage and it takes effort, but you're 100% capable of that too. Alright. This is a love note, a life coaching pep talk, if you will. I know this work. I do this work. I've guided and taught others how to do this work. Thank you for listening, but more than that, thank you for being exactly who you are.
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